Friday, September 19, 2014

Someone’s Ugly is other’s Beauty




Is there a beauty bias out there today? Are we all so ignorant to realize that we are all beautiful in one way or another? What is ugly to one person is beauty to another. We are so biased today we can’t see the truth as it shows up before us in the mirror. Isn’t beauty skin deep and aren’t we really overrating it a bit for being beautiful is really convenient for those who have the good looks and get the compliments from strangers and friends. 

We are so politically correct these days we have forgotten the fundamental reason for life. Our life is designed to be filled with happiness. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and what we fail to recognize and understand is what beauty really is. When someone has a disfigurement because of war, fire, accidents or birth does that make ugly? Of course not but if you let your bias get in the way, you will not agree with me and argue the fact their looks have changed. 

How ignorant can that be? We are all born beautiful. Ask the mothers and fathers of their children and see how they respond. Being beautiful in an artificial way does not improve health, intelligence, demeanor or personality. It does not make you more competent and it makes false assumptions that you are treated better than others. There is no such thing as an ugly thing. Stop thinking of that word and change your vocabulary. 

Perhaps we have found the key to this dilemma as we see it to be a matter of personality, taste and preferential desires of what we want persons or things to be. How dumb is that?
Little do we realize that when we seek beauty we are offered a gift that is free. When you look around and see what has been created you must see the beauty in it and not the ugliness one can find if that is what they chose to do with their life. Laws protect people from discrimination but thinking there is a difference between ugly and beauty is discrimination as well, don’t you think? 

Being beautiful is not a qualification for work or profession. Being ugly is not a qualification for the possession of good personalities and skills. Yet people think if someone has the “looks” they are more qualified than the other but what they are really doing is looking past the facts and seeing what they want to see. Here is that ugly bias popping up its head again.

Beauty is just as much subjective as ugly. In fact they are both the same. Society and cultures have focused on the artificial things of life rather than the real and it has shifted our thinking towards this biased opinion that we should give the good looking ones preference in opportunities in life. When society looks at ugly and beauty in an objective manner they will see they are the same. 

Something else we don’t think about when we take those selfies. Does the photo reflect your inner beauty or does it show your ugly disposition on the outside while you are trying to look cool? What is my point? My point is there is no standard, no logical reason why someone should be called ugly when in fact, they are beautiful.

It is cruel to apply this politically correct bias on people and categorize them into ugly or beautiful. We have made intermediary categories such a cute, handsome, pretty etc. but you are missing the point. Why categorize them at all. 

Accept beauty a feeling or appearance for all people. Stop categorizing them according to your biased standard for they are likely not to be you see them to be. We call this bias a factor in relationships, dating and hiring practices as well as other decisions but we are only fooling ourselves. Likely if you date, hire or make decisions on such a bias, you are missing the most important part of your life. 

Recognizing that all people are beautiful. All land and sea creatures are beautiful and all of Mother Nature’s views are beautiful if that is what you want to see in your mind. Some researchers say that we might be able to tackle lookism like we tackle racism—by convincing people to admit they have a bias and to start recognizing it in their daily lives. But that'll mean changing the story we've been telling kids from very early on—that looks don't matter. 

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