A journal of a wimpy man who learns from the hard knocks of life and changes his ways to be better.
Saturday, April 25, 2015
Friday, April 24, 2015
Thursday, April 23, 2015
The Silver Years Ahead of Us
The Silver Years
Ahead of Us
One thing we all have to admit is how the silver years creep
up on you and before you know it, years have passed since you retired. In the
meantime, you had thought about doing a variety of things but for some reason
or another, you have become a couch potato and inactively going through the day
without any exercise or stimulating activities including trips and out going
places.
Have you been thinking about being more active now that your
clock has stopped and the watch you wear is just for looks? Have you been
thinking about going for walks or eating less food but you feel like there is
no hurry to get to such a point in your life? Whether you realize it or not,
the clock is ticking and your heart is not as strong as it used to be so maybe
you should get off that couch and do a little exercise.
We know two things for sure; old habits die hard and life’s
clock does not stand still. We get old and we get old faster if we become
inactive and do nothing about staying active and eating better.
We know that making changes does not come easy. It takes
years sometimes to change old habits into new habits. While you are undergoing
such thoughts of changing, you will find many obstacles and barriers along the way
working on discouraging you to make this change you are thinking about.
Somewhere along the way, whether it be the death of a friend,
a relative or someone you worked with, the reality hits you square in the face
and makes you realize you need to change your ways. Not just your daily routine
but your way of thinking, your priorities and your health habits. It’s time for
you to wake up and realize you are but a step away from heart problems,
diabetes, crippling diseases or bone degeneration if you don’t change your
life.
It is time for you to make a move and find ways to get
motivated and improve your habits. You have to change and you know it can’t be
done overnight so you decide to take four steps to make it work for you. Changing
your behavior will take serious contemplation to plan it; reasonable and rational
preparation to start it, time and opportunities to take the action to do it and
create a new lifestyle to give your new life a means to maintenance to keep it
up.
STAGES OF CHANGE DIAGRAM
■ 1.
CONTEMPLATION
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■ 2.
PREPARATION
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■ 3.
ACTION
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■ 4.
MAINTENANCE
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“I’m thinking about it.”
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“I have made up my mind.”
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“I have started to make changes.”
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“I have a new routine.”
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You are thinking about change and trying to become more
motivated to get started.
You might be in this stage if
..You have been considering change but you are not ready
to start.
..You believe that your health, energy level, or overall
well-being will improve if you develop new habits.
..You are not sure how you will overcome the roadblocks
that stand in the way of success.
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You are making plans and figuring out specific ideas that
will work for you.
You might be in this stage if
..You have decided that you are going to change, and you
are ready to take action.
..You have set some specific goals that you would like to
meet.
..You are getting ready to put your plan into action and
get started soon.
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You are acting on your plan and making the changes you set
out to achieve.
You might be in this stage if
..You have been making eating or physical activity changes
in the last 6 months or so.
..You are adjusting to how it feels to eat differently or
be more active.
..You have been “troubleshooting” to overcome things that
have blocked your success.
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You have become used to your change and have kept it up
for more than 6 months.
You might be in this stage if
..Your change has become a habit.
..You have found creative ways to keep going and stick
with your routine.
..You have had slip-ups and setbacks but have been able to
get past these snags.
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Wednesday, April 22, 2015
The True Way to Find Pleasure & Pulsation of Life
The True Way to Find Pleasure
& Pulsation of Life
We are often worried about missing life’s pleasures. We talk
about having bliss and happiness in our lives but rarely feel we have known,
experienced or understand the significance well enough to explain it to others.
The truth escapes us sometimes when we talk about life’s pleasures and
pulsations as these are vibrations of life considered to be the ultimate orgasm
of life itself.
As humans, we can experience bliss. It is believed to be a
separated emotion from the other sensory elements humans possess and is in fact
something desired but rarely experienced until sometime after the happiness or
event has happened. You might say it is part of the reflection where you grasp
and understand the moment much better than at time it occurred. Bliss can seem
too unreal and unattainable for some people, at best it is experienced at rare
moments in your life.
Bliss is a higher state of pleasure. It is a spiritual state
of mind. It happens in those fully conscious moments of unobstructed emotion as
the human body and mind bond for a moment as one and make it seem like an out
of body experience. It is a rare form of energy and is considered to be one of
the purest forms of pleasure. It is the harmony of a perfect union between the
hearts, the soul, the body and the energy provide. It seems to be cosmic in
nature and origin.
One cannot place their hands on bliss. One cannot feel the
pulsation or rhythm of bliss through their sensory preceptors or body. So
whether you are a liberated person or one who has no blocks of nature’s
inhibitions, bliss carries with it positive energy and a high degree of
pleasure. It is a moment in time where the pulsation of positive energy
overcomes the negativity and erases the fear of our most basic inner struggles
with life itself. It simulates an out of body experience but is real to the
person who attains this flow of energy throughout their existence.
Bliss, pleasure and positive pulsations can never be
achieved by those who block the human mind’s obstructions to happiness and
freedom. It cannot be experienced by
those who block their spiritual self and deny them the pleasures of life. One
must have the capacity for pleasure to experience it. One must have the means
of carrying this pulsation of energy to a higher degree to attain bliss. Thus
the human mind and spirit are interactive and required to achieve an
interdependent relationship that produces bliss.
One has to ask quickly, what are these obstructions or
blocks that may hinder pleasurable times and bliss. How can you become aware of
such impediments and what shall you do to reduce them as you long to reach a
state of bliss. If you can’t reduce them, how do you remove these barricades in
your life? The fact is, longing for bliss does not come easy. One has to work
for it with deliberate effort. One has to fight a war within themselves at
times to conquer the spirit and energy for such pulsations of bliss.
Pleasure, in the real sense, is intensely fleshly and
intensely spiritual. There is no division between the fleshly and spiritual
state. So pleasure is the ultimate reality. Bliss is not—as religion seems to
imply in its misunderstood interpretations—a reward for having been
“good.” Bliss is the natural state of a
unified being in harmony with itself and the universe.
If you want to attain bliss you have to devote time and
effort to this adventure. In the journey, you will feel increasingly personal
fulfillment and self-growth along the way. The capacity to love intimately and
completely with your body, soul, and spirit will be the goal that
simultaneously advances your self-purification—for one cannot exist without the
other.
Obstructions come in many forms and are a manifestation of
division, conflict and denial of things in your life. Associated pains are
frustrations, anger, mistakes, sins, morality, personal dissatisfactions or
lack of confidence, commitment and a variety of human pleasures that seem real
but have hidden motives or substitutes for what is really required to make you
happy and at peace with yourself.
How can you truly commit yourself to integrity, truth,
deepest honesty and a positive approach to yourself and life? Do you possess an altered ego, distorted
pride? How can you wish to abandon negative pleasure, these false satisfactions
of your pretenses, your role-playing, and your defenses? Failing to abandon such negative energy
creates negative pleasures but conflicts with your reality of living with
bliss.
How can you truly commit yourself to integrity, truth,
deepest honesty and a positive approach to yourself and life? How can you wish to abandon negative
pleasure, the pseudo-satisfactions of your pretenses, your role-playing, your
defenses? One has to ask, who is
cheating on who?
As long as you are convinced that these substitutes are all
the pleasure you can have and that living a decent life implies sacrifice, you
cannot even believe in pleasure. This difficulty is intensified because you
cannot bear pleasure exactly to the degree that you cling to all these false
ways of life. You become capable of taking in genuine pleasure only to the
degree you give up the false, negative pleasure.
You must find a way to break through the vicious circle in
which you are caught, which goes like this:
The less you truly want to give up all the subtle falsities and destructive
defenses, the less you can accept pleasure.
Therefore you cannot believe in it; therefore you cannot
want to give up that which obstructs you from experiencing it; therefore both
the will and commitment to experience pleasure, nor the giving up of destructive,
life-inhibiting patterns can exist.
Your innermost being does not make it possible. Your energy
is engaged in negative inner activities. By the same token, to the degree that
you assume self-responsibility, to the degree you respect and love yourself
because you no longer cheat even in the subtlest of ways, to that same degree
you become more and more capable of experiencing pleasure.
The more you can look forward to a full and blissful
existence, the less hard it will seem to give up these destructive patterns on
the deepest level imaginable, to stand on your own feet, to accept necessary
frustrations. The equation of the acceptance of full autonomy with the capacity
for pleasure is extremely important to comprehend. One is not possible without
the other.
To begin this journey you must learn how to meditate and
find the connection between truth and reality. You can only attain bliss when
you are honest with yourself and become less dependent on others for your
emotional and personal growth.
One has to abandon fear, hate and resentment for others and
live within the means provided by the energy maintained as it pulsates through
your mind and body. Therefore pleasure
and spirituality, pleasure and decency, pleasure and emotional maturity,
pleasure and physical health are all intricately and intimately connected.
Reference:
http://pathwork.org/lectures/pleasure-the-full-pulsation-of-life/
Tuesday, April 21, 2015
A poem - Alone in the Redwood Forest - April 2015
Alone in the Redwood Forest
Last night I looked up in the sky and felt a deep painful sensation
penetrating my heart.
The dark black draped sky covered the billion stars that usually
blink at me as I walk the dark alone
It was so harsh, so unexpected and most of all, it took my breath
away, making me feel dizzy and lightheaded like never before I could recall
Except that time when I came back from the war and on my knees I fell,
and thanked you from my heart so grateful, that like so many other, in the
battle I did not fall
I wanted to feel alive again, I wanted to be free of worry and pain
I knew that running away was not the answer, so here deep in the
forest I must stay until I could figure out a way
In time, I could breathe again, the pounding on my chest had stopped
and the pain was almost completely gone
Staring up to the sky through the tall tall trees, I felt a lump in
my throat and began to ask God why? Why do I feel this pain inside me, oh Lord,
what have I done?
Do I not call you my Father, do I not embrace your only son? So tell
me Lord, what evil sin have I done?
For years, I have been feeling lonely, oh not the kind where you are
alone, but when you feel an emptiness inside you, a rapid heartbeat and a
conscience that wouldn’t leave me alone
It happens each and every single time, I think about the past, and those
who I had loved once before are now in heaven and already gone
I can’t forget their faces, I remember the obsession of them hanging
around, I can sense they are basking in the sunlight, their trouble no worries
no more
I detect they have changed and different, since the time they left
and went away
There must be a way where I say “I love you” and let them know this
each and every day
So when I feel like this, I head out to the forest, where my eyes
are adorned by lush filled green leaves and wild flowers all around me
Each tree is full, each branch is dancing in the wind and down on the
ground I can see and smell the fresh growth of moss on their trunks covering
them making the trees ready for winter
Right beyond the trees, I knew were the red rock cliffs and caves in
every nook and cranny where the animals rest when winter snow falls
Up in the sky, there are birds chirping and singing, as I can hear Mother
Nature’s calls
The clarity and simplicity is what my head needed to see what life
was all about and how I had drifted so far away, I forgot how to be enchanted
by the silence and the beauty all around.
I wish I could bring this cluttered tree formation with me wherever I
go
I wish I could smell the fragrance of the hundred shades of green as
the sun peeks through the leaves and lets me know it’s the perfect time of the
day to pray
And thank my God for the blessings bestowed upon me, and those with
who I share life with and love forever with me stay
It’s a perfect time to make peace with inner self so that the pounding
heartbeat fades and brings me back to the comfort and oak-filled oasis
surrounding me and let me know, I am prepared for the change of season and
reason under the stars of heaven and God’s purpose in keeping me safe
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