A dawn of
Confusion and Conscious Awakening
One
day, whether early morning after a night’s sleep or just before going to bed,
you may have such an experience suspecting or feeling confused, paralyzed and
overwhelmed with a moral dilemma to do what is right and stop this inner
turmoil inside the head and heart. It is one of the most painful experiences
known to mankind but it is often a major decision that has to be made at one
time or another.
The
anxiety of being faced with a crossroad in life where a next decision must be
made in order to move forward from this stopped, stuck place, is often
tremendously stressful. No easy debate to follow as it is so paralyzing in way
we feel. Dealing with such negative stressful forces can make the situation
insurmountable in every aspect of life and sometimes hopeless.
Making
a decision under such conditions means dealing with two forces very different
in nature as you learn to listen to your heart in one situation and use your
head in the same circumstance. How do you know which is right? The fact is, making
decisions under such conditions can be very impossible without a little help. Two
major questions come up to deal with:
Let’s
examine these two forces: the head and the heart, each in turn as they both
speak different languages we all understand. However, when they exist at the
same time, or they are circular in values, then it becomes more important to
pay attention how you “think” in such a situation. This is the first clue in
such situations – keeping it rational and logical if at all possible.
The
Heart of the Matter are arguments which contain feelings related to your soul
and can be stronger than the head in the emotional feelings of desire and
passion. It may appear timid but it does not feel fear – rather it thrives on
love, either self-narcissistic ways or the love or powerful appeal for
something or someone else.
The heart takes us to risky and unknown paths in life. It creates confusion strong enough to avoid making a decision. This inner conflict between the wishes of the heart versus the voice of the head makes it hard to decide which is the right path to take.
The
Head of the Matter are arguments that the heart does not feel. The head is
emotionless and comparative with a thorough thought process that includes fear.
It is your mind corrupted by human flaws such as greed, lust, and wealth as
enticements or incentives to make decisions.
The
head enlists the thinking process to do the comparative process and decides
what is best on motive, expectations and desires. In other words, unlike the
heart, it tries to convince us what is the safest, best or most desirable decision
to make based on fear of making the wrong decision.
Under
most circumstance, the heart and the head will fight boldly and argue the situation
persuasively and seductively in favor of a compromise or fulfillment of some
sort. The outcome depends on what you long for the most in life. The head may
dictate a status quo in your life while your heart may seek a change. Patience
is a virtue when faced with such difficult situations.
On
the other hand, since the head is always looking out for potential risks in
keeping you safe, it might act as our bodyguard and convince you to change your
mind contrary to your heart’s desires. Since our heart does not monitor fear,
our head keeps our wits about us! It is our heads that trigger the “fight or
flight” syndrome inside our body and changes our hormones to deal with the fear
or survival needs. If it were not for the head or intelligence we possess, our ability
to sustain and survive life would be seriously impaired.
Recognizing
this argument between heart and head we can see the heart seats itself as our pleasure
mechanism or triggers of passion, pulling the heartstrings in many different directions.
Without our heart, we would not experience love, explore the freedoms and
beauty of life and in all practical terms, be a dead heartless species. One can
quickly see how that impacts our decision making capabilities as well as our
moral values.
We
have to come to some balanced sense of clarity and courage of choice of actions
or directions. The best course to take is the do the stepping with true
conscious awareness of the dynamics and inner dialogue that goes on between the
head and the heart from an authentic self – this translates into making a
decision by yourself, and not follow the advice of others involved or
witnessing this inner struggle.
This
is your story – your challenge and your decision. Making or taking the right
action or decision depends on your values and staying true to your own nature,
mind, heart and conscious awareness.