Chuck Ryan is failing Arizona as a teacher and leader

Chuck Ryan is not a teacher or leader -

Most of us know the basics of being a good leader. Leadership is an essential core value of running a state agency and must exist to direct, promote and implement the mission of that agency. Our prison director, Chuck Ryan has failed in all relevant roles as a leader and competent agency director. He continues to blame others for his own shortcomings and refuses to admit he has stalled this one billion prison agency to a deadbeat track where people are dying, staff are leaving and money for services is staggering.

Not only has he lacked sound leadership qualities but he have dropped the ball on teaching others to excel as his beliefs of ‘lessons learned’ are far from acceptable by any educational standard. Good teaching reveals values you possess and want to instill on others. This means sharing these values and communicating effective principles and tools to do so. My beliefs about learning is that you are only as good as your mentor or teacher who taught you directly or indirectly and passed on their experiences as well as your own to make a positive contribution to the field or profession chosen.

For the past six years I have observed Chuck Ryan in the teaching field and find him severely lacking the skill and knowledge to do it right. His teaching skills are not effective and develop no bond between the student and teacher relationship – which is because of the fear culture that he allowed to develop as failures meant discipline or demotions except for his own shortcomings. Core values in sound teachings are missing. Even today those elements are being ignored.

There are 4 aspects of learning: relationship, communication, techniques and continuous learning opportunities. With prison policies in mind, there is a complexity that is perpetually changing. New information is gathered daily and it’s imperative to stay up to date and be open-minded. A value Ryan does not possess.

Arizona is being short-changed of an education that could develop future leaders and bring this vital tool to the front as education is power and knowledge, an essential value that allows anyone to accomplish anything they desire in life within their span of control or learning abilities. The goal is to treat each professional the ability to attain the same educational level in every way they are capable of through opportunities provided.

Under the current administration, professional staff cannot be self-expressive. They are not able to express their own personal or profession views on things presented in the strategy room. It is believed that learning is a process where a person acquires knowledge through leadership, instruction and teaching. The manner this is facilitated is of the utmost importance. Approach determines response.
This is a framework of a reliable concept proving that the learning process can be developed even under critical situations if the environment is safe and free from harsh or undue criticism and open dialogues.

Participation is a key factor of the learning experience. It gives the leader, the mentor or teacher, a form of daily feedback from his subjects as a whole and equally from each individual taught as they grasp the subject matter covered in each session.

Persistent Workplace Bullying

Persistent Workplace Bullying

So many articles have been written about workplace bullying, yet it appears to be happening more frequent than ever before. This makes this persistent trend to bully others an especially troubling concern or issue in corrections as this profession is filled with an abundance of ethical issues related to employee safety and violence that appears to be focused on those employees who do their jobs with due diligence and appear to be contributing to the positive efforts to provide an ethical environment driven by a negative culture that undermines civility, teamwork, compassion and fair treatment of co-workers and others.

One would hope a profession such as corrections fosters dignity and respect. Although generally speaking much is said about the job in a positive light, there are still those individuals who ruin the positivity with their own self-created negativity. We can only guess how this impacts or affects those around them whether they are prisoners or co-workers, contract employees or visitors.

This negative affect on the workplace is directly related to the sculpturing of workplace violence or excessive bullying. Such negative dynamics created barriers of ‘silence’ whenever there are mistakes made in their improper behaviors or performance. Most ignore or ‘keep quiet’ about such mistakes as they fear retaliation for speaking out about another’s behavior or misconduct.

This ‘silence’ leads to excessive stress and anxiety creating health issues that are a direct result of unmanaged anger or frustration that adds to hypertension, heart disease, depression and other deep rooted psychological problems combined with this health issue. It becomes a long-term affect rather than short term and solutions are often drawn to impact staffing issues as the call-ins or absenteeism for using their sick leave becomes excessive and more frequent in an attempt to escape the bully syndrome at work. Some transfer out or resign their positions but most of all, most begin to deteriorate in their performance that directly results in less quality control in safety and security elements.

Lastly, this lateral violence or bullying creates a negative workplace environment that often causes the good employees to leave creating a high turnover of experienced and high skilled individuals leaving the bullies and other incompetents behind to do the job. One can certainly see how these impacts the environment from other perspectives as it general contributes to high vacancy rates and high rates of critical incidents.

Today, more than ever, employers and staff have opportunities to intervene to prevent lateral violence and workplace bullying. There are multiple resources an organization can draw from to apply to their own setting. Employers should make it clear that bullying will not be tolerated through establishing zero tolerance policy enforcement. Education about and role-modeling of respectful interactions is also important. Poor behavior and performance needs to be addressed rather than ignored and it must be addressed by the wisdom of management to change the cultural disposition of the workplace and implement a re-tooling method to change behaviors and attitudes along the way.

Paranoia Chair - Metaphor

My Paranoia Chair – [Metaphor] written for all retired law enforcement and corrections.

 

I’m sitting here in my swivel chair in front of my old but faithful desktop writing short stories like I usually do at night when everyone else in the house is busy doing something. Around me is a passive, quiet crowd of four plus an infant not more than a week ago. Their eyes are preoccupied on the screaming and gleaming newborn as I walk by and sporadically see their mesmerized smiling faces rather than the deadened deep sunken skulls I used to see around me not more than five years ago.

 

The entire setting is pleasant as there are no chills perpetrating or assaulting my body from the past where I shielded myself from the strangers and visitors who came to my office and visited me in my paranoia chair. In fact, the ambiance is so different; I still haven’t gotten used to the peaceful feelings around me and sort of miss the hostilities that once surrounded me daily.

 

Back then, when I was a prison official, I called my paranoia chair my refuge from the madness around me. I called my favorite chair as I had it positioned so I could see the door at all times and the chair was located behind a huge oak desk in the back corner of the office. I had a perfect view of the entrance to my office and nobody could surprise me.

 

No one entered, exited or even moved without being under my vigilant and watchful gaze or stare depending on the mood. I used to stare into my phone when it ran and tried to read the caller ID so I could decide whether to answer it or pass it on to the administrative assistant located in the office in front of me. There was no procrastination, there was no deliberation- it was a necessity of the job to answer or ignore the rings that brought the good news or bad, but in my case, mostly bad.

 

I tested my peripheral vision daily; I watched the body language come and go and determined what actions I should take upon their entrance or exit. Sitting there in my paranoia chair I watched every employee’s movements and mannerisms through my ever wide open eyes and listened carefully and deliberately paraphrased each conversation. I trusted those dressed in brown but even then, I kept one eye open.

 

Compared to the peace and quiet of today, I used to watch the office door swing without ceasing the whatsoever slightly creak it signaled that it was opening before the knock on the door and although I miss my alarming attitude as the number of employees walked in and out that must have been a few dozen times a day, I now sit here in my swivel chair, relaxed and day dreaming like there is always tomorrow.

 

Mind you, in the past, I was ever so hyper-vigilant at all times; never forgetting to note each employee’s dress, stature, expression or for some, even scents. I often toiled and focused my sensory perceptions to an overload capacity whenever I walked the yards to inspect the grounds, the units and the open spaces for out of place characteristics and refused to tolerate any non-compliance to the rules and regulations enforced with great difficulty at times, assuring the other strangers there, of my vigilance in sight, smell, sound and smell so I could evaluate my environment on my own without reliance on others.

 

When my eyes saw something odd or out of compliance, my right eye began to twitch and my hands involuntarily balled into a fist. There was no trembling unless there was anger but with the paranoia in high alert, I could detect the tell-tale signs of a pending war even when the signs were not obvious to the others around me. It was my paranoia that composed my body into a confident composure and my auditory senses were alerted whenever there was noise pollution in the area that was either high or low on volume or content. If one paid attention, my tone, volume and words all changed to meet the need of force or action.

 

I never cracked under fewer than one thousand and more solid stares from strangers dressed in orange. I kept my conversations short and sweet and to the point as I was taught to listen and speak less. My personal paranoia allowed me to hear the words clearly and associate actions with their words. Sometimes, I would hear a message loud and clear that simulated a teacher’s fingernail screeching across the chalkboard to get our attention. An attention getter, I paid attention to every sound made around me.

 

I cannot lie that goosebumps did not find me at times. I didn’t fear by itself but it was the fear of the unknown that kept my paranoia on high alert. As I sensed something wrong, I could feel my pulse quicken, my blood rushing and my heart pump faster and faster with each increasingly shallow breath as I prepared for the art of war. Conditioned to fight, I forced my way into the light and sought comfort in the fact that we did what we did to restore the order and make it safe again.

 

Unlike today, I never let a stranger sit close in front of me or behind me. As one moves around me, my mind detect their zombie eyes and metaphorically I reach for my twisted talons in case there was a dagger in their hidden hands. I never let my guard down and at times, danger found me quicker than my mind materialized or expected. The dagger finds me unsuspecting of harm because I let my paranoid guard down for a moment and left me vulnerable to a close encounter unexpected and unprepared.

 

I leapt to my feet and rushed the stranger – ducking to the right and blocking a twisted lunge to my neck; I scampered out of danger and grabbed the hand with the dagger to restrain the stranger. Soon, others dressed in brown came running down the run and took the stranger away in handcuffs as he continued his screams of injustice and betrayal. It seemed he was angry at the world and I happened to be in his realm of reality when he saw me and counted me to be the one to catch his wrath.

 

So now, five years later, I sit here in my swivel chair in an almost empty quiet room. My paranoia is settled down as the dangers have subsided and the noise is almost nil and undetectable to me and others. My refuge is now a quiet room away from the others. I have no corner to sit with my back to the wall, just a chair, a desk and four walls around me. The door is open, the music is loud and I fear no one walking into the space I am sitting.

Sometimes I never even glance up to see who it is walking in but my senses have taught me to tell without looking. The air is cleaner, the ambiance is friendlier and there are no strangers around me like before. My lungs breathe relaxed and no longer living on pins and needles as there is no probability of assault or danger in my house not built of glass. For the longest time, I thought that paranoia would be my partner forever - I was wrong.

 

Today, there are still dangers; it lurks on the outside of my walls and the darkness when the sun goes down and the nighttime falls. But things have changed; I no longer sit there lying in waiting to find the danger. I no longer gasp for a breath and hold it to steady my aim or my body to fight the feeling to attack. Today, space and time have stopped completely. There is no need for constant paranoia any longer and I have a head full of fresh air, a vein filled with plenty of oxygen and a heart that has softened up a bit to kill the feelings of being a paranoid bitch.

 

No more icy fingers on the trigger; no more steel toed shoes to keep my feet safe and cold. Nobody is watching me like before and if I didn’t know better, I would say that fear has left me completely until I walk outside the door. There, on the outside, people glance at me up and down, measuring me as I walk the pace that throttles my energy under most circumstances. I am no scared rabbit but my feet can still carry me quickly if the need arises.

 

Not one to readily run or bolt, I carry my weapon where the crowd may be hostile or risky. Totally aware of the darkness around me, I gasp for a breath and hold it just long enough to be relaxed. Thinking all the time, my fingers, head, legs and backbone are connected to my spine. I still feel the vise grip that protected me in the past and I will never let go of the fact that there are lots of strangers around me, some with sunken black holed eyes and some are zombie skulled freaks. In my mind, I have to go back to my paranoia chair and do it all over again.

 

Sitting here with my swivel chair and desktop in front, my mind is relaxed and open. For now, I am sitting there in my easy chair; I realize that someday I might have to go back to my paranoid chair. I know nothing is safe forever; I know the home I live in can be violated by strangers with malicious intents as home invasions are more frequent now than ever before. No room is forever safe, no door is forever secured and no danger is ever forgotten.

 

Thinking back to those moments when orange was the color black was before, I can still truly feel the moment my heart rips out the anger from my rib-cage and I am certain that any day, any moment when I least expect it, danger will truly find me again. I am prepared to fight. I keep my paranoia in the back of my mind at all times as I deflate when the four walls around me tells me it is secure but when the darkness falls, I perpetuate a chemical rush that sends an adrenaline rush to my brain as I lay down my head on my pillow, with one eye open.

 

No longer does my head feel like it went through a blender. You can say I am stabilized. I don’t work as hard as I did before to keep the paranoia alive and active as if I am sitting in my paranoia chair but in the back of my mind, the time it takes to move from one chair to the other is just a nanosecond away.

 

Dreams and Destiny = NO AGE LIMIT

Dreams & Destiny - 

 

 

What were you born to do? “I don’t know,” appears to be a very common answer as you shrug your shoulders. Some of us have never thought about the moment, the opportunities or the dreams of being gifted, successful or finding your niche in the world.

Fundamentally, we all possess the talent, gift and power to make changes around us. There is no age limit here. We all try to find new ways to do things and challenge life’s problems when barriers come up that may influence past, present or future. To fill your destiny, you need to manage your time and energy and never waste it. When you revisit your childhood, can you recall your happy moments? Do you remember your dreams and ideal visions of success or wishes for better things in life? Were you tuned in on a destination and made your routines to fit the dream so it could become a reality? 

 

Many will answer no but some lived and looked for signs that directed us to the path we wished for out there when we were young and dreams were part of our own personal reality. Dreaming can be exciting; it can be the mental roller coaster you need to find your destiny and dreams come true. Your heart beats stronger, longer and pumps fresh energy to keep you moving towards your personal destination. Your soul guides you to the light and keeps you on the moral paths you desired as you learned the rights from wrongs early in life and use them to keep you tuned in with reality. 

 

A God given gift of intuition and instincts helps you with the magic connection to communicate with the future. Your knowledge is becoming more universal and your drive is energized by the stars and heaven above. The more you desire, the more you learn and thrive for more details of your dreams to make them come true. At the same time, the more you concentrate, the faster the results in the laws of attraction as new opportunities come knocking on your door. Your fate is destined and your manifestation to succeed is real. 

 

Eventually, your destiny begins to show inside your heart and mind as your intuition has been strengthened as you prove that all things are possible when you try harder than ever. There are no lucky moments, there are no coincidences, it’s all based on your ability to meet the challenges before you. We reap what we sow but we can re-steer karma to suit our destiny. The power to be successful is absolute and positive. The cause and effect is taking the universe by storm and your feet, grounded and firm on the ground are constantly moving towards your goals. 

 

Everything you do is a cause and effect in motion; it’s the laws of attraction, cause & effect, and it grows daily as you focus your mind on the things you want, need and desire. Your soul is on fire and you know what you want to make your dream come true. Your passion grows with every spark of success and although there will be adversities in your life, your personal energy drives you over the top of such barriers and helps make a lifelong dream come true. You need to know what’s destined so don’t waste time and energy going after it.

The Apocalypse

The Apocalypse is in your own Mind

There are no references for what I am about to write. There is no proof and there certainly isn’t anything concrete you can hold or see to be the truth of what I am writing about. This isn’t about biblical parables or symbolism of the apocalypse as it was written in the Revelations of Saint John. Most of what I write may seem bizarre, cryptic and a form of delusional thinking or sensationalism that came from my own mind.

None of this is written in any holy scriptures and likely not in any scientific documents written in books or found on the web. I know two things for sure: either the apocalypse is real or it is false. I know it’s universally accepted as being a part of your own religious based beliefs as you grew up and taught about revelations etc. including the rapture and second coming of Jesus Christ. Somewhere between the truth and my beliefs is a value for me to believe that there are many promises written in the Bible and whether or not this promise of a blessing or a dooms day event is real is up to the individual’s own sentiment and faith in what is written.

My aim is to keep these reflections rooted in what is textually clear, practical, and consistent with my personal lessons learned mainly on my own and mentors too many to mention. The apocalypse is about you and your life – it has nothing to do with others in your life or world. It’s all about how you lived your life and the way you lived, without leaving out the bad with the good and not focusing on future events but rather dwell in the present.

According to Wikipedia, apocalypse means the lifting of the veil” or “revelation”. It is a term applied to the disclosure to certain persons (apostles usually) of something hidden from the majority of humankind. Today the term is often used to refer to the end of the world, or revelations at the end of an age. The book of Revelation is known as the Apocalypse of St. John of Patmos.

In my own mind, these revelations are poems written in a language that is visual and emotional in content and context. It’s a prayerful imagination in one’s own mind. I make up what I see, hear and feel. I am inspired by the fact that I have free-will to do so and see the apocalypse as a means to express the end within the realms of my own life and not anyone else’s world or problems.

I believe that visions, feelings and sounds can be real without being factually present in a realistic world – the mind allows you to feel things not yet real but gives you a hint or warning of what is to come.

In the Bible there are hundreds examples of allusions and at the same time filled with tales of delusional thinking and hallucinations impregnating the minds of many who believe they saw or heard what they wrote. They felt inspired to do so and documented their own experiences for the sake of extrapolating information for others to learn from and heed advice for the future.

The stories of the apocalypse are meant to give you new perspectives. It allows you to think of the past, present and the future without being weird or not normal and not cast into the darkness of the paranormal.

It gave us a coping device on what we refer to as visions mixed with present and future realities but without shaping any certainties of what is about to happen and whether that event is a good experience or a dooms day development.

Certainly these visions of the future should affect me now but they don’t. I do not think, shape or alter anything in the way I live when I wake up and get out of bed every morning. I say my blessing as my thanks to God and say a prayer for those who need inspirational strength to keep the faith flowing in a positive way.

If there is anything I am certain about regarding the apocalypse is not the walking dead, the dragons, beasts or anything else that creates horror inside the mind; I believe anything related to an apocalypse is related to the existence of Jesus Christ in my life and how his spirit has guided me through my own lifetime, hoping that I fulfilled my destiny and purpose as it was created under the heavens.

Is Arizona a Police State? Is there a school-prison pipeline - Letter to state legislators

Honorable Legislators and guests,

Some say Arizona is already a police state as there are advocates who preach such harsh police tactics and weaponry to beef up law enforcement. Some will say this is due to the immigration issues within the state while others will tell you it is to protect the citizenry from criminals and preserve public safety. Others will preach paranoia to justify their boosting of cops at public meeting places and our schools while expanding prisons saying we don’t need more Sandy Hook incidents and this is a means to prevent such mass shootings from occurring in the state.

Nothing is ever said about schools being one of the safest places to be for our kids and now they are boosting the schools to resemble a prison-like environment that in all practical sense duplicates the mannerisms of a prison.  In their zeal to crack down on guns and lock down the schools, these advocates for police state tactics in the schools might also fail to mention the lucrative, deals being cut with Para-military and military contractors such as Taser International [a locally situated vendor] to equip these school cops with tasers and purchase other special weaponry, closed circuit television systems and even shooting detection devices or systems.

For the past several years, this has caused a mass transformation of hometown police departments into extensions of the military that has been mirrored in the public schools, where school police or resource officers are outfitted with high tech weapons and other military gear. One Texas school district even boasts its own 12-member special weapons team.

In all reality, there is an underlying current flowing into the topic of the school – prison pipeline that has been described in many different articles today. The ramifications of this concept are far-reaching. The term “school-to-prison pipeline” refers to a phenomenon in which children who are suspended or expelled from school have a greater likelihood of ending up in jail. Sadly, studies have shown many of these kids come into contact with the juvenile justice system within the coming years before graduating.

Not content to add police to their employee rosters, the schools have also come to resemble prisons, complete with surveillance cameras, metal detectors, drug-sniffing dogs, random locker searches and active shooter drills. As a former prison administrator, I can honestly say that most of our state’s schools have become  an assimilation of our prisons. Nearly 40 percent of those young people who are arrested will serve time in a private prison, where the emphasis is on making profits for large mega-corporations above all else.

Private prisons, the largest among them being GEO and the Corrections Corporation of America, profit by taking over a state’s prison population for a fee. Many states like Arizona are under contract with these private prisons who sign contracts to agree to keep the prisons full, which in turn results in more Arizonians being arrested, found guilty and jailed for nonviolent “crimes.”

Even the governor has signed on with these profiteers to expand prison beds beyond the number actually needed anticipating a growth in the future based on this projection of making our kids, our future criminals. Only the legislature has the power to change the trend if the governor refuses to change the direction. He has bluntly stated, he will not change his business end with the private prison contractors. He will continue to expand prison beds through privatization.

The influence of private prisons creates a system that trades money for human freedom, often at the expense of the nation’s most vulnerable populations: children, immigrants and the poor.” This profit-driven system of incarceration has also given rise to a growth in juvenile prisons and financial incentives for jailing young people. Indeed, young people have become easy targets for the private prison industry, which profits from criminalizing childish behavior and jailing young people. Lessons learned here demonstrate the state is being imparted is that Arizonians—especially young people—have no rights at all against the state or the police.

The fact is when you promote prisons over school, you not only get what you pay for, but you reap what you sow. if you want a state of criminals, treat the citizenry like criminals like we are doing today. If you want young people who grow up seeing themselves as prisoners, run the schools like prisons.

On the other hand, if you, as an elected official want to stop this school – prison pipeline trend by raising up your hand in objection of such legislative agendas, you could in fact turn this ‘drifting direction’ around. I hope you are a person who still believes in freedom who will actually vote your social conscience with justice, fairness, accountability and equality towards each other and our government. We need to fund our school and drift away from the prison mandated path we are on today.

We can still operate and adequately fund our state’s schools without infringing on our freedom forums. We can selectively assess and evaluate schools for their case by case violence rates and determine adjusting the police’s role at those school and start treating our state’s youth like citizens of a republic and not future inmates in a police state.

Losing Faith in our Police Officers - Back the Blue

Losing Faith in Our Police Officers

Things have spiraled out of control in the past several years. Trust in public servants has fallen severely and does not show a rebound in faith or confidence this sentiment will ever return to its previous levels – ever. Today we lack trust and faith in our cops and those who represent them in the community whether it be their respective unions or other political groups. It is true that more today than ever before police officers and the communities that they serve are suffering from a credibility problem. 

Following those incidents where cops are indicted for all types of crimes ranging from DUI and domestic violence to various felony crimes including homicides, makes you aware that they are no longer the rarity in the news. It is no longer an occasional incident where the police department was let down by one of their own who went rogue. Sadly, prisons are being filled with those who chose to betray their oath, their promise to protect and serve and uphold the values of their profession. To be convicted of their individual crimes, they did more than just squander their trust – they betrayed society. 

As with other professions generally held in high esteem, a police officer is more than a public servant; he or she is a role model and a mobile sanctuary for our kids to turn to when they need help. Consequently, police officers are held to a higher standard of honesty, integrity, bravery and forthrightness, qualities that lie at the heart of the public's trust in law enforcement. For a police officer to lie undermines the very foundation of this trust.

The idea that there are more good cops than bad cops could persuade some to regain trust in the police. But to question for gaining back future credibility of the department's depends on how many good officers will identify or work hard to get rid of their bad ones.  Good cops being witness to a rogue cop and remaining silent is not only a mistake but a criminal act in its own.

It also ignores the fact that all police officers are required to participate in the act of exposing the nefarious activities inside their respective departments. This makes it hard to consider the fact that as a whole, the overwhelming majority of police officers and civilian support staff in police agencies are honest, conscientious and dedicated.

Losing trust and faith is a natural affect of being wary of these criminals who break the laws while in uniform and carrying a gun and badge.  Logically we must do more to understand and identify what makes the best police officers and support the good ones but that’s hard to do when you don’t trust their supervisors or administration knowing the fact they have ignored this criminality among their rank and file for some time now. 

I know that in order to restore this trust and faith, we must not lose the belief there are good cops in the vast majority of officers who every day demonstrate their commitment to the community with their honesty, integrity, bravery and hard work.

It is always sad, disappointing and, frankly, enraging when anyone who is placed in a position of trust and is supposed to exemplify good sound judgment, moral turpitude and honesty and then are found guilty of a crime that proves them to be violent, deceitful and corrupt.

Lying Is Good For You

 

Executives today are told that lying is good for them and that it works well for those who get what they want or seek in life. Thus we are dealing with deceptive behaviors and the fact that the means justifies the end. Simply put, lying works well as it is often taken to be the truth as long as no one can contradict your version of the story, statement or comment.

Sometimes we lie to avoid punishment or admonishment for making a mistake, sometimes we lie to maintain a personal or professional relationship and try to please others at all costs. But honestly, most of all, we lie to please ourselves. The fact that we want to be more important than we really are drives us to tell lies that embellish our credentials, our reputation and our social or professional status.

Thus it’s fair to say, we deceive others to make ourselves appear and feel better. There are no exceptions to social status or professional positions of those who lie. On the average, a person tells three lies every ten minutes of a conversation. It is also fair to say that this number is way lower than actuality and is likely higher than that. In fact, we lie without hesitation and become dishonest in an addictive and automatic manner. Most of the time, we tell lies and not even aware we are lying.

Unfortunately, the best lies are those told when we don’t know we are lying as they are the hardest to detect when looking for deceptive behavior that includes body language or facial expressions. Because we don’t know we are lying, there are no nervous traits to follow or broadcast making the liar a credible source of information. Self-deceptive behavior is the handmaiden of deceit.

In today’s society, the truth has become more offensive than ever before. Honesty is no longer the best policy. Nobody wants to hear the truth any longer and if you are too honest, blunt, not politically correct or straight forward, you are considered an anti-social person with pathological baggage attached to your reputation.

People have been told that lying reaps psychological benefits for them. It is said that people who lie are less depressive in their moods, more energized and more willing to accept more responsibilities. The less honest you are, the more benefits your sow socially and professionally. Whether intentional or pathological, a good liar can easily fool people and harvest more than others, making me think that sooner or later, karma will play into that part of your life as well.

Therefore, when all is said and told, we live with the assumption that people are telling the truth when in fact they are lying. Perhaps this is motivated by the fact we hear what we want to hear and encourage others to accept it true or not. Accepting a lie prevents digging for the real truth. It establishes a false sense of legitimacy and once heard we are motivated to let sleeping dogs lie.

Thus we accept lying as a fact of life, we even changed the words into a code or slang term to determine its value is worth as much, if not more than honesty is today. One is to say, that being politically correct, tactful, possessed with social graces or diplomacy is a gift taught at a very early age and gets better as they grow older.