Self-Loyalty
It
has been often thought or said out loud many persons must first learn how to love
themselves before they can learn to love others. In reality what this means is (s)
he must value his or her own opinion of self somewhat less than those of
others. Self-loyalty is not a politically correct perception or impression in
today’s age and manners. It is often misjudged and distorted and confuses many people
in the practice of such an idea.
One
can say that self-loyalty is an attitude and not a behavior. On the other hand,
to be in harmony with self-loyalty one must not lie to himself or herself as it means you must remain honest and
realize you can’t run away from who you are and what your own needs are while
sacrificing them for the benefit of someone else. A paradox perhaps, but a
reality just the same that self-sacrifice is an important of this process.
Facing
these facts makes self-loyalty a complicated situation for many who strive to
be someone accepted by many if not all. Hence they are often misunderstood or
called selfish in nature. Self-loyalty is essentially being someone who can be
a natural best you can be individual who doesn’t worry about the needs of
someone else if they compromise their own.
Sacrificing
comes at the price of being your own person and dealing with difficult
situations sometimes and is often subject to much peer pressure or family admonishment.
You cannot lie to yourself and you can’t undermine your own life or future
giving in to the demands of others. You can’t or shouldn’t make excuses for
your perceived personal failures as you refuse to enable others but realize you
must first enable yourself to be strong and dependable for future needs or
expectations.
You
must learn to enforce and reinforce everything in your life and not run away
from them no matter how difficult they may be for you. You must be honest with
yourself and stop enabling others who may force the issue when the subject comes
up. This applies to every aspect of your life, both physically and mentally. Don’t
make excuses for your shortcomings and no matter what the reason, be honest
about how to take your own responsibility for these shortcomings rather than
making excuses. Those who understand your reasoning or motive will respect you
as you become consistently better at this progression of taking care of
yourself first.
Self-loyalty
is not the same as being selfish. Putting your own needs first is done to bring
wellness and helping yourself in order to maintain a positive spirit within
yourself. One must honestly ask “how can I help someone else if I am not well?”
Keep your obligations or promises in perspective and do them with the competences
you have by helping yourself first to face the challenges and fulfill your own obligation
while you are feeling better about yourself and what you do. Its’ the best way
to show people who you really are and how you feel about yourself as you feel
better about yourself around others.
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