The Stare

The Stare

We all know what the stare down is and we all have had to deal with people who stare. However, this stare is different, this one is a blank inexpressive face, with no words, no emotion and no humanity.

Most of your experienced stare downs are people trying to cower you down and intimidate you through direct eye contact. They are relying on your inner fear to avoid confrontation and look away, making you the loser in this test of wills and confidence. However, this stare is different. This is a stare of shock.

This is not an interpersonal communication attempt. There are no implications of power or confidence. This is just a blank stare which in all cases, serve no other purpose but to stare.

There are no reasons for this stare down or the deliberate psychological step to intimidate or win a battle of wills. There are no certain rules, circumstances or logic to this behavior. There are no reasons for believing there is a power or control issue here. There is none.

This stare is not about a threat or disrespect. This stare is about just staring.

No winner, no loser and no conceding the match. It is just a moment in time for uncomfortable eye contact that won’t go away until the shock wears off, if it ever does.

There is no connection – there is no feelings of intrusion of the mind or body – there is nothing.

There is, in all actuality, no true eye contact as the stare is a blank stare that has no receiver on the other end. The brain has not allowed the retina and optic nerve to translate what it sees thus the stare is blinded and there is no vision.

You can now converse but the words cannot be heard. You can feel more comfortable for the stare is not aggressive because there is no dominator or dominance issues with the stare.

You can have the satisfaction that you can break the gaze because there is no vision.

Body language is nil – here we see no motion from the person with the stare. There are no hand movements or gestures. There is no nervousness or fear. The fear has already triggered the stare.

This is not a submissive gesture. It is a void expression of a missing world. There is no “alpha” person here to compete with and win.

Finally, there is no attempts for nasty manipulation – there are no good guys, bad or ugly. There is no sound, no words and no facial expression. This stare makes the person not to exist and therefore, gone from his reality.