How many times have you heard this expression and make you
either feel at ease or very uncomfortable. These two words can mean so much to
some and taken for granted by others. The meaning of “trust me” goes deeper
than most realize and should be taken with a grain of salt or pessimism as it
does not always mean what it says.
Today we use abuse this word way too much. We say “trust me”
like it’s a common word that we all understand and know what it means. In all
reality what is trust? Trust is something of value and dependability. Trusting someone is relinquishing control over
something or someone and providing yourself with the predictability that
everything is fine and things are under control and done in the manner or
expectation or responsibilities implied. Although rarely seen in this light,
trust is an emotion. It conveys feelings that are suitable for openness and
willingness to expose yourself to vulnerabilities that others may take
advantage of if given to the wrong person.
Trust is given by being logical about your decision making
and choices in life. When you trust someone there is always a risk involved but
based on your emotional bonds and your common sense that tells you have made a
good decision it takes in considerations of probabilistic elements that tells
you that there will be something positive come about on this decision and give
you a level of confidence you can deal with ease.
Basically speaking most people can feel trust when they
associate it with special persons such as family, friends or other companions
in their lives. Associated with this feeling of predictability and comfort are
satisfied feelings that reflect agreement, relaxation and comfort with the act
of finding someone or something trustworthy of your confidence.
Life has taught two things for certain. The greatest average
rate of risk is 50 per cent in most cases. It is either a good or bad decision
or it is either a reasonable or unreasonable decision. It will either work out
as planned or it will not. This is where predictability is measured based on
how you think situations will occur or be resolved. Knowing who to trust or
what to trust plays into this factor as you exchange information you have about
your family, friends or other persons who you have placed a level of trust in.
Anything less than 50 per cent is just a poor choice made if you have insight
on what other people will do and how they will handle a situation when it
occurs.
Last but not least is the exchange value of trust. In a
relationship one expects love in return for trust. In a business relationship
one expects loyalty in return for trust and in in business matters we expect a
principle at work where you trust you get your money’s worth for the price
paid.
Therefore trust is a perpetual feeling or emotion that goes
with the mood or emotion of the moment as well as the sensibility in making
good choices based on experiences to not fully knowing what has value and how
much value it contains but are willing to take the chance that it is what you
expect it to be or claimed to be. Trust now becomes particularly important,
because otherwise we are giving something for nothing.
When we trust other people, we may not only be giving them
something in hope of getting something else back in the future but we may also
be exposing ourselves in a way that they can take advantage of our
vulnerabilities known commonly as being “burned” by another person who you
should not have trusted to begin with. Hence lessons learned are valuable
assets in making such decisions in life and the workplace.
Trust should be used sparingly and with wisdom. Once someone
has failed your expectations and trust they should hold no more value at the
same level as before to you and that broken relationship brings a lack of
understanding that goes deeper than the surface for it impacts respect, love and
dependability thus establishing the other person as someone unworthy of being
reliable and having value in your life.
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