Have you evaluated yourself lately and determined maybe you
need to change your way in having conversations with someone lately? Let’s look
at these signs and determine the facts if you are bored or the cause of the
boredom – either way there is a need for change if you want to make your
conversations more exciting.
Sign #1 – do you repeat your responses with – Oh really?
That’s interesting? That’s funny? Or maybe hmmm is that so? – It means your
conversation is disengaged and not interesting.
Sign #2 – do you ask simple questions like “where or when
did that happen? Where is it? How do you get there? – It means they are trying
to be polite not curious at all of your topic.
Sign #3 – are there any interruptions to your words? If
there are that’s a good sign but if there aren’t any interruptions, you are
being boring.
Sign #4 – Do people paraphrase you or ask for clarification
on your words? If they are sincerely interested, they will ask you to elaborate
on your words and ask questions.
Sign #5 – Talk time out of balance – who talks more? You or
the other persons? For the sake of balancing the conversation, allow
interaction equally to share the information being discussed.
Sign # 6 – Observe the body position – are you face to face
with the other person? Are they looking away? Are they trying or pretending to
be interested in your conversation? Check their attention span and follow their
eyes going into space, rolling or gazing elsewhere.
Sign # 7 – Observe the posture – are they slouched or
leaning against something as you are speaking? Are they vertical and attentive?
Are they fidgeting and looking away or laying down? They are giving you clues
you are being boring.
Source: Gretchen Rubin - writer
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